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What wil happen during divorce mediation?

Once you decide to divorce, you should learn as much as you can about mediation. You may assume that litigation is the only way to resolve your problems, but this isn't always the case.

With the right approach to divorce mediation, you may find yourself moving through the process in an efficient and productive manner.

3 advantages of mediating a 'gray divorce'

Gray divorces describe individuals who choose to get a divorce after the age of 50. These later-in-life divorces present unique issues. For one, the spouses tend to be more mature and better able to navigate their divorces peacefully and respectfully. Also, these spouses will have more assets to divide, since they've been working and saving for longer as a married couple.

Because gray divorcees are better capable of reaching agreement, and because property division can be complicated, many spouses turn to divorce mediation as a great way to finalize their divorces out of court.

Yes, alcohol and substance abuse can impact your custody case

Facing a divorce is never easy, but when there are minor children involved, it becomes a very emotional process. No matter how you feel about your spouse, you love your children deeply. You likely want to have a close relationship with them as they continue to grow.

If you and your ex can't agree on how to split custody, you may feel like you need to ask the courts to set up a parenting plan that will work for you. It's important to realize that every case is unique.

Fighting for custody as an unmarried father

While the child custody courts in the state of Pennsylvania seek to be unbiased, certain situations can make it more difficult for fathers to gain custody of their children. This is especially true when it comes to establishing paternity.

When a couple is married when they have a child, the paternity is automatically assigned to the husband. Therefore, if they do go through a divorce in the future, the father will easily be able to file for custody since paternity will have already been established. However, when it comes to the acknowledgment of the father's paternity when he is not married to the mother of the child, the mother has to acknowledge it voluntarily. When this does not happen, the father must try to establish it through other means, such as through a DNA test, before he can proceed with filing for custody. The following is some advice for fathers who want to file for custody after they have established paternity.

A parenting agreement will provide guidance after divorce

If you're going through divorce and have at least one child with the other person, it won't be long before you begin to think about all things related to child custody.

Even though your life is sure to change, including the way you raise your child, you need to do whatever it takes to maintain some level of stability. Fortunately, with the help of a parenting agreement, you can do just that.

Gray divorce as you approach retirement age is a fresh start

There was a time when divorce was mainly the arena of young couples who realized they were incompatible or who experienced issues, like infidelity. Couples who had spent decades together did not choose to divorce, even if their marriages were no longer healthy and happy. That has changed in recent years, with older adults and couples with decades of marriage together choosing to seek a fresh start in their golden years. The divorce rate among couples over the age of 50 has doubled since the 1990s.

Many different factors contributed to this increase. The social stigma around divorce is much lower than it was years ago. Our culture has embraced the idea that sometimes people need to end existing relationships to pursue their own happiness and well-being. Couples at or near retirement age may find they no longer have much in common with their spouse and worry about spending years together without the interruptions of childcare and work. For these couples, divorce may be a better option than staying together in an unhappy situation.

Should you wait for the children's graduation to get divorced?

You have two kids. One is a senior in high school. The other is in eighth grade.

For three years now, you have felt terribly unhappy in your marriage. You and your spouse barely speak. You sleep in different rooms. You feel like two tenants simply renting the same house.

Important concerns for same-sex adoptions

Same-sex couples have the same legal rights as heterosexual couples under the law. On paper, this is certainly true, but there are some facts that make certain issues surrounding same-sex marriage unique. This is particularly the case when dealing with children and adoption.

The most unique aspect of gay and lesbian adoption is the fact that the child of a same-sex couple will usually only have DNA from one of the parents. For example, a female couple might find a male sperm donor and one of the women will carry the child. A male couple might find a woman who is willing to serve as a surrogate and egg donor. In both of these cases, one part of the couple will not have contributed any DNA to their child.

These co-parenting tips can put you in a better place

There is a lot to think about as you go through a divorce, including what you can do to maintain a strong relationship with your child.

Although there is nothing easy about co-parenting, the right approach will go a long way in putting you on the path to success.

Your Actions Can Impact Your Efforts To Gain Child Custody

When you are married going through a divorce, you and your spouse begin with joint custody rights. Essentially, this means that both you and your spouse have equal rights to your children. It also means that you both have equal rights to pursue custody of your children in your divorce case.

Custody Laws Provide Equality


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