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Norristown Family Law Blog

Same-sex marriage: What are the advantages?

For more than two years now, everyone in the United States benefits from the right to enter into a same-sex marriage partnership. While getting married may not suit everyone -- and some may not be ready to do that with their current partners -- there are some genuine benefits to marriage for gay couples.

Let's examine these benefits in depth so you and your partner can decide whether a same-sex partnership might be right for you.

Divorce & Adopted Children

For many children, a divorce often becomes a traumatic signpost of youth. However, for children who are adopted, especially if they weren't adopted as infants, this effect can be magnified, and it can become a much more difficult, formative experience, especially if there are disagreements about child custody that result in a legal battle.

Children Still Come First

More than ever, the idea of putting a child or children first in a divorce situation is all the more important when it comes to adopted children, especially older ones. After all, in a successful adoption, you have spent months-perhaps even years-preparing the arguments and qualifications that are supposed to prove that not only do you have the financial resources required to raise a child, but the proper emotional and family stability that is required to give a child a safe environment, both physically and psychologically in which to develop.

What should I consider when making a parenting plan?

You will have so many options available for planning your child custody arrangements that it may be difficult to land on the perfect plan for you and your family. You'll also need to balance your own wants and wishes, with those of your ex, and the best interests of your children.

It could help to have a checklist to consider when making your parenting plan.

Is The Michigan Child Custody Case Legal?

Recently, one of the most disturbing child custody cases in American legal history took place. A rapist was awarded joint custody of the child he fathered when he raped a 12 year old girl. This is exactly the kind of nightmare scenario that Zitomer Law works hard to help its clients avoid.

Improperly Handled

The bizarre case took place nine years ago in 2008. A 12 year old girl snuck out of her home to meet with friends, and was kidnapped by a then 18 year old man named Mirasolo. The girl was held for two days in an abandoned home and was repeatedly sexually assaulted. Upon release, she was found pregnant, but decided to keep the child. Mirasolo was later arrested, but only served six and a half months in jail by plea bargaining to a less severe charge to avoid a lengthy jail sentence. After he was out, however, he raped another woman, only to serve a four year sentence in jail for that crime.

Are you prepared to tell your child about your divorce?

Telling your child about your divorce is one of the most difficult things you will ever have to do. Even so, you don't want to hide from this conversation. You need to attack it head on, as that's the best way to ensure that your son or daughter is on the same page as the process moves forward.

Here are some of the steps you can take when the time comes to tell your child about your divorce:

  • Know what you want to say in advance. You should write down everything you need to discuss, as this will ensure that you don't make any mistakes or leave out anything of importance.
  • Block off time for this conversation. You never want to talk to your child about your divorce when there is something else going on, such as at a family dinner. This is an important conversation that deserves to be treated as such.
  • Have an idea of what your child may ask you. It's important to realize that your child will have questions, such as those surrounding how his or her life will change. You need to be ready for anything that comes your way.
  • Be honest. Now is not the time to make up stories or say something that isn't 100 percent true. You should be open and honest with your child about what's going on and how things will change down the road. But say everything in an age-appropriate manner.

Are you unable to afford your child support payments?

As hard as you try to make your child support payments in full and on time, there could come a point when you realize that this is no longer possible.

If you are unable to afford your child support payments, perhaps due to a change in circumstances, it's imperative that you know which steps to take.

Laying Low On Social Media During A Divorce Can Be Beneficial To Your Case

The technological age has given us the ability to keep up with friends, family, and other acquaintances from the palm of our hand. Simply pushing a button on your electronic device can share your location, what you are doing there, and in some cases who you are doing it with. When you are going through a divorce, especially when children are involved, the types of posts that you share with the world could pose a threat to your case.

It is hard to resist the temptation to post anything and everything because it has come to be acceptable among society. Most marriages do not end on the happiest of terms, and items that you post could be brought up in court to bring your character into question. There are so many emotions that are at a high level during your divorce proceedings that anything is possible from the other party to gain an advantage. Remaining low key and checking your posts thoroughly are essential to making sure that no one gets offended during these volatile times.

Helpful Information About A Grandparent's Rights In Pennsylvania

Becoming a grandparent can completely change a person's outlook on life. These little bundles of joy can make even the roughest and toughest personality soft and loving. Grandparents often go out of their way, bending over backward, to spoil their grandchildren rotten, and along the way, they create a strong and lasting bond. Unfortunately, there are circumstances that may cause these relationships to become fractured.

An unexpected death in the family, or a divorce, are two of the top reasons responsible for straining these relationships. Often, the children of these families have to relocate with the parent that was granted custody, and eventually, the visitations may only start to take place during holidays. They may even stop altogether in an attempt to hurt the other parent. If you are a grandparent experiencing these types of problems, our firm is prepared to listen, guide, and set up a plan that serves the best interests of your grandchild.

Are my alimony payments tax deductable?

Most Pennsylvania spouses who are paying alimony are not entirely excited by the idea. Even if you can understand the logic behind the court's decisions -- or if you can see why the law requires it -- alimony payments can feel like a significant financial burden.

When it comes to taxes, spouses who are paying alimony get a small break. They can deduct the money they pay in alimony from their annual taxable income.

How are child support payments treated on my income taxes?

Let's say you recently got divorced from your spouse of 15 years with whom you have three children, ages five, seven and nine. Since your spouse received full custody and you are considered the noncustodial parent, a Pennsylvania family law court ordered you to pay $1,000 each month in child support. This is a significant financial burden, and you're probably wondering if you can receive any kind of tax benefit for making these payments.

The short answer to this question is, no, child support payments are not tax deductible.


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